am going to comment on two themes running through your last two
questions and the comments made to them. One is about a wife “seizing
control and related is the notion of whether you are ready to submit
completely to her authority. My experience ( with two different women)
is that you don’t know if you are ready until she draws that line in the
sand and demands you accept discipline. She has to seize control and
then you find out. What took time in both my relationships was that my
disciplinarians sensed I was ambivalent and so they hesitated to take
that final step. I think it is hard in our culture for many women to
demand obedience and you really have to show you are ready to submit to
their authority. With my girlfriend it never really happened but my wife
pretty early in our relationship insisted I accept a spanking for
something I felt was unfair (at the time). That spanking happened and I
realized that emotionally I could not stop her even though physically I
could have. That was a defining moment for us when I realized she would
spank when she decided and I couldn’t stop it. I think something like
that has to happen in every DD relationship if it is to become real. As
much as we think we want discipline our women have to seize and use
their authority before it all clicks. Because we can’t discipline
ourselves is why we ask our wives or girlfriends to do it for us. The
other issue is being made to orgasm before punishment. Any male who has
been punished this way would probably do almost anything to avoid
another. It probably is the purest kind of adult punishment and I doubt
there is a male who is not reduced to tears spanked that way. I do
think willingness to accept this is an acid test for being ready to
submit completely. Both women I have been involved with demanded
authority to use this to enhance punishment rather than to humiliate. My
girlfriend told me she felt it a limit on her authority until I agreed
to do it but after I did a couple of times she never used it again. My
wife also saw it as a control issue but she does actually use it to
punish me for one particular misbehavior. It just my opinion but if you
are looking for a way to show your wife she is in charge offer to take
your next spanking after orgasm. Believe me she will understand what you
are offering and after it’s over you will have no doubt who is in
charge.
Alan
Alan
